Ways to help with a broken heart

What to do about a broken heart. Well it cant be mended easily, at least not without time and tender loving care and support from people around you. But there are some methods that can take your mind of your sorrow for a while and for a brief moment enjoy life.

1)Eating- Well i cant say that i recommend this way of curing but it does work for some people but it does come with a side effect of getting fat though. So unless you are skinny beyond reasoning dont try this method.

2)Drowning yourself in music- This way is a way i've tried. Find some tunes that you like and it's opposite to how you are feeling and drown yourself in it. Listen to the tunes and even sing along LOUD if it helps. Or you can just get some soothing piano pieces and just lie down and empty your mind.

3)Aroma theraphy- This goes side by side with Music. Just get your fav sent and light your pot and put on some nice soothing music and turn on the air condition. And just relax and don' t think so much about your problems.

4) Hang out with your friends- This is one method that always work. Get your usual band of friends and just spend some time with them and pour out your heart if you feel like it. Go to the arcade, Movies, Ice skating, anything that involves your friends and FUN.

5)Cry- Just cry until you feel like stopping or when it doesn't hurt much anymore but be carefull that you don't damage your eyes.

6)Any activites- Just go out and play some sports of start up some recent or old hobbies. Anything that can take up most of your time so you won't have time to think about your problems.

Well thats as much as i can come up with. Some of the methods or should i say ALL of the methods i have tried and they work. But if you have some other methods that works for you. Feel free to tell me. Who knows? Maybe it will turn out to be an even better method.

Why is it so complicated

Ever wanted something so bad that you would do everything in your power to not risk losing it? Ever felt that that one thing was the cause of your smiles and laughter and if it was gone... happiness itself would be taken from you? Well you are not alone. What am i talking about? About a relationship of course be it boy to girl or girl to girl or boy to boy. At the end it's all same. Because when it comes to a relationship no matter between which gender? Everything comes from the heart.

U always think that u know what to do and how to do it when it comes to a relationship. But what is it that you really know? I thought that i knew how to talk to females and get closer to them. But it seems that the harder you try for something, the more effort you put into it. And at the end, the bigger the let down and disappointment. U place all your time and feelings into her but girls are hard to understand. You try and try and try but it seems that it is never enough. You can talk to her the whole day or spend all your time cheering her up and being with her but when you say that it's getting late and u can't talk anymore. The true colors come out, the selfishness and self centered thoughts emerge. The attitude of "leave lar" "don't want to talk to you d" "i find my other guys lar" "don't want to friend you d" or the constant hanging up on the phone.

Dont misunderstand. Im not talking about all females, im just talking about the few that i have gave my time to and got a load of crap in return. If you ever feel that a person that u have feelings for are like that then i strongly advice to have a good one to one talk. Do not wait till the last minute to try to work things out because it never works. At least not for me. Haih what a way to welcome myself back tomy blog.

Damn sick wei!!

Sorry i had been out of commission of two weeks. God had a serious case of sick attack. First the food poisoning then the fever then the headache then the other stuff. !!! Rough week man!! ANd of all times to get sick i get sick when my test is just a few days away!!

What makes a person tick..

Part 2 now.. what makes a person tick. After some research and asking around. A lot of people says that LOVE makes a person tick but some others say that it's MONEY. Well either way i don give a damn what you say because im the one writing the post LOL!!

Hehe kidding, any feed back would be useful though. Well from my point of view, a person is defined as a person if he or she is able to express themselves without having to hide their emotions and feelings. For instance, have you ever gotten hurt and i mean really hurt but you don't wanna tell your friends because to them, you are a smiling happy person that never is always in a happy go lucky mood.. well if you ever felt that then rest assured that you are not alone, a lot of people tend to hide their true feelings and nature from the world. Of course you can always confide in a friend but there is only SO MUCH that you can tell. It's like you can only tell 10% of your problems from your friends and the other 90% is left for you to sulk in.

If you are able to show your true feelings without having to worry about what other people might say then you are living a happy life without having to worry about anyone finding out about you secrets because there are none. It's easier said than done, because come on, who would tell their best kept secrets to anybody! No one, that's why even though we know that there is a way to release us from our secrets we dare not try it because we are scared of the things people might say about us.

Hmm what else that makes us tick according to me. I may say that it would be our personality, let's face it. Where would we be if we were not who we are(understand?? i don't). If i was not outgoing or funny or dumb, then i wouldn't be me would i? Be true to yourself. That's my advice.. Do not change yourself for the sake of someone or something and lose control and forget who you really are. If you are funny and caring don't change all that just because your friends are not like that and you just want to fit in. "What makes you tick" is just another sentence for what makes you YOU.. i may be able to come up with tens of thousands of reasons that makes a person but at the end it's you that will determine how you tick. Ask yourself a few questions if you are unsure of yourself..

1) Am i happy being who i am now?
2) Was i always like this?
3) If no then who was i before this?
4) Do i still want to continue being like this?
5) How can i change for the better?

I am no psycologist but i have ask myself those questions before and im surprised by my answers. Well i am getting the feeling i always get when i write my essay and when i run out of ideas. If you enjoyed reading this load of whatever i wrote then write me a comment with your answers to those five questions. Thanks.

What is in a relationship...

Hii!! haha well here comes another topic on an action of expression that humanity does all the time... Yes it's a relationship..

Well define a relationship.. to put it easily, it's usually the scene you see at local shopping centers. A guy and a girl holding hands walking side by side smiling widely as if no one knows that they are together.. Exception cases of course are guy and guy, girl and girl, parents and children. Lol!!

But what is a relationship!? What? Is it saying "I love you" & "I miss you" or "You mean a lot to me" and etc and thats all there is to it? OF course not! But first timers tend to think that thats all to a relationship.. especially the guys. The girls may have real feelings for the guy but first timer guys tend to just go with the flow and "experiment" with the relationship but not actually indulging in it. But of course there are exceptions that a guy actually falls in love or actually puts his time and effort into the relationship..

What IS HE talking ABOUT?? you may ask..
Ask a person about a relationship and the first thing that pops to mind would be..
- holding hands
- kissing
- making out
- going out
- movies
- dark places
- "I love you" "Be mine" "miss you"
- spending money$$$
- PDA (Public Display of Affection)
- sexy body(guys)
- cutie that belongs to me(girls)

Well theres a lot more but this is a blog post not an english essay..
Sure Sure above all happens in a relationship but is it THAT important...
It's important in a sense that both enjoy the fun in doing "stuff"
but what happens when a serious matter happens between the couple or when they try to talk about future plans or things that are out of the "topic".. Here walks in our friends "doubt" & "uncertainty"

Many couples tend to argue even for the most simple things like who is suppose to put the phone down first or why didn't you call me last night... And sometimes this even leads to potential break ups.
Point is that a relationship is no joke. It takes commitment and time and patience to let it grow and blossom. Like a flower...

Here we see what's is REALLY in a relationship..

1)Mutual respect- are you really who you say you are. A Gf or Bf tend to act like somebody they are not to please the other. Are you doing that?? Respect in a relationship is that both the Gf and Bf must be able to value and accept who their partner really is. And would give them the space they need.

2)Trust- A really easy example would.. You are talking to this cute boy in a coffee shop and having a good time and your boyfriend walks by. Does he take it nicely because he knows you well enough and trusts that you would never cheat on him? It's natural to feel jealous sometimes but never let jealousy take control of how you think of a partner. A relationship without trust is like bread without butter.. Hehe

3)Honesty- the best policy. This works together with trust as a whole. How can your partner trust you is you yourself is not honest with him or her. For example, your boyfriend catches you at the movies with your friends when in fact YOU told HIM you were STUDYING..what would he think. He would have to think twice before ever trusting you again.

4) Support - It's the times when you are down that you will need a shoulder to lean on. OF course your best friends and parents are always there but your partner would be a better choice. You can rely on them to always be there even though they have to be somewhere else. And you can always tell them everything there is that hurts you.

5) Fairness- there is no such thing as a one sided relationship that works. It's always about the give and take. Do you take turns choosing where to eat or the types of movies to see. Or are you always the one keeping quiet because you are scared that it may be a stupid idea. As a couple, do you spend more times with your friends or your partner? Of course im not asking you to keep track but and make sure the ratio is always 1:1. Just keep it in a fair balance.

6) Living a different life - before you were in a relationship, you were going out for sports, hanging out with friends and spending time with your family. That doesn't need to change just because you are in a relationship. Live your life as it was and just add your partner into the picture. Of course you are suppose to make compromises but that does not mean that you have to like something you hate or hate something you like.

7) Good communication- Ever heard the saying " a girl never means what they say", No means yes and yes means no? The phrase "nothings wrong" can easily be badly interpreted depending on who is saying it. But don't ever guess what the other is saying. Instead, Just come out straight and ask what you do not understand so there are no miscommunication. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly.

Well i can't say that im an expert at "LOVE" but i do have experiences and by looking at other couples around me. This is what i could write. Hope you enjoyed it.

Next to come~~ How can i tell that my relationship is not working?~~ coming soon.. Hehe