Why do relationships fail...

Nice topic, i've always wondered about it since im like exhibit A over here. I never really did understand what actually happened between me and a few of my Ex GF's. I tried my best to please them, i did everything i could and i did everything right but it seems that my relationship's keep failing me and i still did not have an answer for it so after tonight i finally said "ENOUGH", and went to search for the truth that has been avoiding me for so long. I kept thinking that if im not the problem then it must be the girl im with. I went internet prowling and i came across a few interesting articles. Some had helpful info's and some had partially good info's so i decided to combine them by mix and matching them a bit. Here it goes,~~

There is this method called the three stage test that the women or girl that i love must pass. Ok ok i know what you are thinking, "wah, who does he think he is? Must pass three test only can be with him, so high and mighty?" well its not that the test means that i am high and mighty, it's just that throughout my life and with my experiences, i have learned that people are not always who they say they are. To make the relationship work you have to see if they really are who they say they are and if they hold up to the image they present. Or, risk ending up with another failed relationship?

Relationships end or fail due to a lot of reasons but after searching for some time i found that a lot of people agree with me that it fails due to three major areas or stages.
They are:

• Trust
• Consistency
  
• Life Obstacles

Maybe if you understand about these stages then maybe you can understand why my relationship failed or maybe it can relate to a failed relationship of yours(touch wood)

Trust - There must always be a certain amount of trust between two people for a relationship to work. Any less and it would be certain to crumble in an instant. For me, it seems that i am too trusting and that leads me to my own demise but for some time now i've started changing . Now, i need to know if i can trust the person im handing my heart over to, Of course i give her the benifit of the doubt until i have evidence that proves that my trust has been misused

Consistency - The one thing that i hate the most is incnosistent people. Some of my friends would know that by now. If you are going to say that you are going to do something then DO IT. If you say that you are going to be somewhere at this time, BE there! If you know that you cannot keep you word the don't bother making them or at least tell in advance that you can't make it.

Life Obstacles - Finally it's the last stage. The hardest one of all. If that certain someone passes the first two stages then that leaves this stage and trust me when i say it's not an easy one to pass. This stage is critical because how a person handles life problems will provide insights into their inner feelings and thoughts. For example, my natural inclination during a crisis is to stay calm, devise a plan quickly as possible with the information I have and head straight toward the problem and conquer it.Now, if the woman I am talking with decides to run the other way, starts complaining or just gives up then I have to think twice about getting involved with her.

These are not my idea's it's just that they relate a lot to how i feel and to me there's a lot of truth in it. So if you ever get a girl that passes all three stages, i'm not saying that there will always be smooth sailing after that but you better hang on to her HARD because not many can pass two much less three stages. This can work on guys too, a relationship is a two sided commitment, just because she passed all three stages doesn't mean you passed Her three stages. So what i'm saying is that it's hard for two people to love each other and be together. And never ever complain because remember, you are the one who chose you relationship partner. Sorry if this offended anyone, Hope that this post gave some insight to some people. If not it will just serve solely as an object for me to release my stress and tension on

CAn't belive it happened again!!!!

I can't believe the second post that i make after so long is about me breaking up with my girl... How Ironic... Here i was talking about love and stuff that makes it tick pretending to know about it when i can't even help myself when it comes down to it. I wonder if it's the failures in relationships that i had that made me able to write those posts. Maybe or maybe not but im sure that this was not the ending that i had hoped for. Seriously i always imagined how it would end each time i get myself into a relationship but it never does seem to end the way i want it to though. Of course lets not be naive here, of course im sure that any relationship i start at this time will have a 70% of not lasting till i die. Like DUH! but i always thought that if the flame of passion did indeed go out, it would mean that it went out for both parties not just one. Haih Negative post on my blog, wonder what kid of response this would trigger providedly i still have people reading this old neglected blog of mine. Well Maybe i should start thinking about the sequel to my relationship topics instead of thinking of a chapter of my life that most probably will not be re-read again. Well sayonara. I hope to bury my feelings in this post although thats highly impossible. Well time to drink and drink till i drop though. Haih wish my fav two drinking buddies were here with me. TSY and LLP. you know who you are

Wow its been a long time.

Seems like i havent been updating my blog for a LONG time and i seem to be getting complaints from me friends.. Soo Sooo So sorry guys. was busy with my work and stuff so didnt have time to update it. But now im back so lalalalalala time to update

Ways to help with a broken heart

What to do about a broken heart. Well it cant be mended easily, at least not without time and tender loving care and support from people around you. But there are some methods that can take your mind of your sorrow for a while and for a brief moment enjoy life.

1)Eating- Well i cant say that i recommend this way of curing but it does work for some people but it does come with a side effect of getting fat though. So unless you are skinny beyond reasoning dont try this method.

2)Drowning yourself in music- This way is a way i've tried. Find some tunes that you like and it's opposite to how you are feeling and drown yourself in it. Listen to the tunes and even sing along LOUD if it helps. Or you can just get some soothing piano pieces and just lie down and empty your mind.

3)Aroma theraphy- This goes side by side with Music. Just get your fav sent and light your pot and put on some nice soothing music and turn on the air condition. And just relax and don' t think so much about your problems.

4) Hang out with your friends- This is one method that always work. Get your usual band of friends and just spend some time with them and pour out your heart if you feel like it. Go to the arcade, Movies, Ice skating, anything that involves your friends and FUN.

5)Cry- Just cry until you feel like stopping or when it doesn't hurt much anymore but be carefull that you don't damage your eyes.

6)Any activites- Just go out and play some sports of start up some recent or old hobbies. Anything that can take up most of your time so you won't have time to think about your problems.

Well thats as much as i can come up with. Some of the methods or should i say ALL of the methods i have tried and they work. But if you have some other methods that works for you. Feel free to tell me. Who knows? Maybe it will turn out to be an even better method.

Why is it so complicated

Ever wanted something so bad that you would do everything in your power to not risk losing it? Ever felt that that one thing was the cause of your smiles and laughter and if it was gone... happiness itself would be taken from you? Well you are not alone. What am i talking about? About a relationship of course be it boy to girl or girl to girl or boy to boy. At the end it's all same. Because when it comes to a relationship no matter between which gender? Everything comes from the heart.

U always think that u know what to do and how to do it when it comes to a relationship. But what is it that you really know? I thought that i knew how to talk to females and get closer to them. But it seems that the harder you try for something, the more effort you put into it. And at the end, the bigger the let down and disappointment. U place all your time and feelings into her but girls are hard to understand. You try and try and try but it seems that it is never enough. You can talk to her the whole day or spend all your time cheering her up and being with her but when you say that it's getting late and u can't talk anymore. The true colors come out, the selfishness and self centered thoughts emerge. The attitude of "leave lar" "don't want to talk to you d" "i find my other guys lar" "don't want to friend you d" or the constant hanging up on the phone.

Dont misunderstand. Im not talking about all females, im just talking about the few that i have gave my time to and got a load of crap in return. If you ever feel that a person that u have feelings for are like that then i strongly advice to have a good one to one talk. Do not wait till the last minute to try to work things out because it never works. At least not for me. Haih what a way to welcome myself back tomy blog.