Nice topic, i've always wondered about it since im like exhibit A over here. I never really did understand what actually happened between me and a few of my Ex GF's. I tried my best to please them, i did everything i could and i did everything right but it seems that my relationship's keep failing me and i still did not have an answer for it so after tonight i finally said "ENOUGH", and went to search for the truth that has been avoiding me for so long. I kept thinking that if im not the problem then it must be the girl im with. I went internet prowling and i came across a few interesting articles. Some had helpful info's and some had partially good info's so i decided to combine them by mix and matching them a bit. Here it goes,~~
There is this method called the three stage test that the women or girl that i love must pass. Ok ok i know what you are thinking, "wah, who does he think he is? Must pass three test only can be with him, so high and mighty?" well its not that the test means that i am high and mighty, it's just that throughout my life and with my experiences, i have learned that people are not always who they say they are. To make the relationship work you have to see if they really are who they say they are and if they hold up to the image they present. Or, risk ending up with another failed relationship?
Relationships end or fail due to a lot of reasons but after searching for some time i found that a lot of people agree with me that it fails due to three major areas or stages.
They are:
- Trust
- Consistency
- Life Obstacles
Maybe if you understand about these stages then maybe you can understand why my relationship failed or maybe it can relate to a failed relationship of yours(touch wood)
Trust - There must always be a certain amount of trust between two people for a relationship to work. Any less and it would be certain to crumble in an instant. For me, it seems that i am too trusting and that leads me to my own demise but for some time now i've started changing . Now, i need to know if i can trust the person im handing my heart over to, Of course i give her the benifit of the doubt until i have evidence that proves that my trust has been misused
Consistency - The one thing that i hate the most is incnosistent people. Some of my friends would know that by now. If you are going to say that you are going to do something then DO IT. If you say that you are going to be somewhere at this time, BE there! If you know that you cannot keep you word the don't bother making them or at least tell in advance that you can't make it.
Life Obstacles - Finally it's the last stage. The hardest one of all. If that certain someone passes the first two stages then that leaves this stage and trust me when i say it's not an easy one to pass. This stage is critical because how a person handles life problems will provide insights into their inner feelings and thoughts. For example, my natural inclination during a crisis is to stay calm, devise a plan quickly as possible with the information I have and head straight toward the problem and conquer it.Now, if the woman I am talking with decides to run the other way, starts complaining or just gives up then I have to think twice about getting involved with her.
These are not my idea's it's just that they relate a lot to how i feel and to me there's a lot of truth in it. So if you ever get a girl that passes all three stages, i'm not saying that there will always be smooth sailing after that but you better hang on to her HARD because not many can pass two much less three stages. This can work on guys too, a relationship is a two sided commitment, just because she passed all three stages doesn't mean you passed
Her three stages. So what i'm saying is that it's hard for two people to love each other and be together. And never ever complain because remember, you are the one who chose you relationship partner. Sorry if this offended anyone, Hope that this post gave some insight to some people. If not it will just serve solely as an object for me to release my stress and tension on
